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I'm a 18 years old muslim girl, from Egypt and i'm a lesbian.

only two who know about me being lesbian, my mom and my bestfriend. my bestfriend accepted me but my mom doesn't even want to talk to me about that and she always talks about me getting married and having kids since i'm her only child she wants to be happy and stuff. i really don't know what to do about this, it's tough because i want to make my mom happy but i just can't.

and i have another issue, which is is god, because my religion stands against my thoughts, but what to do? i can't really change anything.
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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    Hi there

    I am glad to hear about your best friend, it's good to have someone like that by your side. But I'm very sorry about your mom. Her reaction is typical and usually it will take time for her to accept you the way you are. How does she know? Were you the one to tell her? Were you expecting a different reaction?

    I think with time she will come around to it. Maybe she is still in a state of shock. In the end you're still her daughter and I'm sure she still loves you very much but is just acting "disappointed."

    As for your religion, you shouldn't feel bad at all. If you believe in God then the only thing that matters is that you believe and commit to good deeds. He will accept you just the way you are.

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      Yup, I actually told her last year because i couldn't handle it anymore i needed to tell her, because i was living in pain and sorrow.
      and yeah actually i was expecting her to kill me or kick me out of home, but when i told her she was like *poker face* no expression at all, she didn't say anything, not even a single word.

      Yeah you are right, thank you

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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    hi , i am from from Egypt too ,
    i know how tough could be a family in this situation .

    be strong , we all fighting here . (Y)

    Even that my mum doesn't know but my best friend does .

    But now she is my former and only lover .

    welcome

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  • 17-24_f_f_h1_f3
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    what about an arranged marriage with a gay guy. it's not the best solution to make ur mom happy but it may help

    • I feel like this is a more damaging "solution" than doing nothing, yes aikho wishes to please her mom, but we all know getting married isn't just about the two people involved. There are families on both sides to consider, and in this case, just more people that aikho has to lie about her identity to. At the end of the day, this is who her daughter is and she can choose to ignore it or delude herself that it isn't real, but I'm sure no mother would be happy knowing her daughter would live such an elaborate lie.

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    • 35-50_f_f_h1_f2
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      Agree with u bluebutterfly

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  • Hey aikho,

    I'm very glad you have a best friend who has accepted you, I know it makes all of the difference. As for your mom, she clearly loves you a lot, as her reaction, while not full of support wasn't entirely negative either. I think you should be patient with her and not dwell on your disappointment about her lack of support, but rather give her some time. I hope everything works out

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  • your mom is just in denial she doesnt want to believe that you are but you can still live your life the way you want to.

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  • If you cant change who you are (and you shouldn't try to change who you are) leave your religion and forget about the hateful god. Find love in life and enjoy it believe me you will feel much better ❤️

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  • 35-50_f_f_h1_f2
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    Reem i am agree with you 100% , my dear Aikho wish you feel better about this all soon and we are all here to support each other

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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    Heyy girl I'm lesbian too ♥

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  • Why ??? God hate us he is the reason of all the struggles the lgbtq+ community went through in the course of history espically the ibrahmic version of god. If you believe in some hippie god that is everything opposite to allah and the jesues dude with his yahwa friend its fine but if you kept believing in the "throw gays from high places" god you will struggle to find peace and comfort when you know that your very nature makes his chair shake.

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