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Why some guys pretend to be lesbians online

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Too often I start talking to ' supposedly a lesbian or bisexual' girl online just to discover that it's a guy with a fake profile . I am usually very cautious when it comes to online dating and whenever I ask the person I am talking to verify their identity I discover that they are just guys who are trying to catfish other girls . It's really disgusting and common just wondering what are their motive is this a kind of homophobia or they are trying to convert us to be straight again.

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  • 17-24_m_f_h3_f3
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    I am sorry you have had a bad experience with guys! I suppose some might feel desperate for a relationship or any form of contact with the opposite sex that they resort to these degrading extremes. I knew some thing like this had to be going on, but I never thought it could be to convert lesbian or bisexual girls straight again, if that's the case then that is really messed up. I hope you don't hate all guys because of the actions of a few!

    Have a great day and night

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    Hate is such a big word it's just frustrating sometimes that's all

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  • 17-24_m_f_h3_f3
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    Yeah, I am sorry that it's frustrating, I hope you interact with guys that aren't as frustrating and they'll make life seem a bit less frustrating

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f4
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    It happens to me all the time, i haven't talked to one girl since I signed up here!

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  • 17-24_m_f_h3_f3
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    :/ that's unfortunate. I've talked to a couple of really nice girls. I am sure you'll get to meet a nice girl, and I am also sure that there are nice guys around if you're looking for those as well, deeda92

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      nice answer

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    • I am what so called transgender Lesbian, its not my fault to be born in a male body, i dont want to be a male and i looking for a girl to understand me , support me, make me be the girl i want to be, so plz try to understand that its my only way to live as a girl is to have a girl account, talk like a girl and be a girl, please msg me if you can

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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      Hello Zina!

      Sorry if the topic made you feel uncomfortable. No one is blaming you for being born amazing, you are unique. Creating a profile to understand yourself to becoming a woman is perfectly fine, your intentions are true and honest. The discussion is geared to guys who have homophobia and want to intentionally cause harm or problems to the people of the LGBTQ+ community.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    ive had this experience and its really the worst. but i got a lot better now in knowing who's telling the truth or not people pretending are bad at it and have no idea how it really feels.

    • Would you mind telling me how you differentiate? I‘m so bad at this and I‘m fairly new to this online world of secrecy. Just want to minimize the damage.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    i suffered this issue many times.it is so hurtful and disgusting

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f4
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    I seriously have no idea! As if this would magically change our preferences lol. It's pathetic and annoying.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f3
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    May be they are gay themselves and looking for guys, some guys are just too empty on the inside they think it is fun to prank people and trick them. It's just indication that they are very twisted. Always stay safe and cautious

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    Been around for a while n i can tell this is not a great place to be in..a lot arent rly trustworthy..n those who r dun last..just so complicated .. ppl act , lie i never felt comfortable..this is likely the 10th time am deleting my account..hopefully the last..stay safe!

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      I'm really sorry to hear this. If you have an experience with a specific user who is doing this please report to the admins and they will be removed as soon as possible.

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    • 35-50_m_b_h1_f4
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      No it isn't so..it's just that it is more complicated than it looks or we r..ppl dun tend to trust eachother..some suddenly leave..some r just looking for sex..i dun tend to understand lesbians not willing to talk to gays and viceversa..while everyone is free to talk to whom he / she wants but that makes me feel that this is all about sex..on the other hand whn u find someone who is reasonably decent..he / she isappears..or u do..am just tired from all that shit honestly..doesnt seem to find such warmth..n hating feelin that ur always accused of something u didnt do .. u dun tend to search for friends cuz o dun bel this is sth that we shlould be looking fot..but in the same time this shouldnt be too much to ask for..n wish to find..

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    • 25-34_f_f_h3_f3
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      I think it's important to mind everyone's boundaries and wishes when private messaging-- if someone doesn't want to be contacted by certain people that's valid and should be respected.

      I want to remind everyone of the "block" feature when stuff like this happens, and again, please contact the mods who are more than happy to block ppl who are being deceptive and making the community unsafe.

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  • Its really frustrating .. done with Lesbian dating sites in 2 days .. too many fake profiles..

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    im glad this never happened to me before but its really disturbing to see others experience this. makes me very sick and also sad that people would take advantage of others' trust and vulnerabilities to entertain their own agenda.

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  • 25-34_f_f_h3_f3
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    It is awful

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  • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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    I never understood thinking process behind the fake profiles. For people in general to do that, it is just a sign of weakness in their heart. I know telling the difference online is literally asking a series of simple questions. Their responses tell you their motive but that does take time to decipher, such as pain.

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