I wonder if people share my experiences. I have a fair amount of freedom for your average Muslim Arab girl living in the USA. And I of course take advantage of it. The problem is of course when my parents confront me about it.
I am in my second relationship, and it is much more serious than my first. We are planning on spending our lives together. (he's muslim too!) Right now, I live at home, and he lives 2 hours away, and I make up any excuse that I can to see him. I don't care about the lying. I love my family so so much, and I don't want to leave them, and this is what I have to do in order to get what I want from both sides.
But everyone knows that all lies eventually star to unravel. I've had this happen before, with big crying confrontations with my family, they found out everything about my first girlfriend, but we'd broken up so I just said more lies about how she didn't mean that much and I was in a phase and all that. (it really, really sucked.) Now I am thinking that if this comes apart, I will have to leave my family, because I couldn't get both sides anymore. The thought fills me with dread, and I wish my family would just not ask me questions, but the fact that they let me travel two hours away, and even overnight sometimes, is a big step for them.
I just don't know anymore. It is getting very very frustrating having to invent friends, pretend my phone's dead, and put my bf in uncomfortable positions just to have my stories "verified". I really am a professional liar, and I wish there was any other way I could live. .