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Hi everyone i was really excited when i found this website and i want to ask a question , it may sound naive or stupid may be but i need some answers and my question is how can u be sure that ur gay, lesbian or even straight i mean we live in the middle east and we all know how hard dating "personal" life can be. so if you didnt know whats the taste of chocolate , how can u be sure that u like it ??!!!!!!!

i hope to get some advices or answers.

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  • 35-50_f_w_h3_f4
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    I think in the beginning everyone must have these questions. You can tell by the type of people you feel attracted to and by the thoughts you have about them and yourself. I also questioned myself but then it became obvious by the women I found myself falling in love with, I never felt that way towards any man before and don't even feel any attraction towards men and this made it clearer for me. I didn't have any experiences, you just *know.* For some people it takes years, there are many things that can happen that will make you continue questioning and exploring your full identity.

    Is there any reason you feel not sure?

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    you don't have to try or taste it to know...... i knew without having touched or kissed anybody and im not even a very sexual person so my attractions were not only physical

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  • i dont know but i think that u may be involved emotionally with some one but that doesnt mean that love him as a lover i mean its sometimes confusing for me and i think that i will take a lot of time to be sure and that make me sad

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    Do you have to be "sure"? I mean, it seems like you're questioning, which means that you're thinking about something other than settling down and getting married to the opposite sex. I'm not living (and dating) in the Middle East, only with very very Arab parents. (I'm in the US). But I think just knowing yourself, knowing that you are looking for something more, is enough to get an idea of what chocolate tastes like. I hope you find your sweetness soon though, chocolate tastes pretty damn good. ;)

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    Just stay open to explore who you are. What do you have to lose in this process? You'll regret it if you didn't take the time necessary to know for "sure." You might enjoy someone as a friend at first and soon it will develop to something more and when you are finally in love, you will know it. Love has no barriers, it has many obstacles but not barriers. I encourage you to keep an open mind and spirit and not to worry about what anyone else thinks and to enjoy this discovery road that we all had to take at one point or another.

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  • thank u all very much for ur comments and advices

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