I’m contemplating moving out of my parents house, I can finally afford to (just barely) and I’ve been financially independent for a few years now, paying rent to my parents and contributing to the household expenses and such..
I’m not out to my parents, but I think they know (I mean they must know!), I’ve always been vocal about not wanting to get married, not being attracted to men, not wanting to have children and I’ve hinted here and there about the possibility of moving out someday, but it was always “someday” never today, and I was always told that I could not afford to and that I’m bad at managing my money.. Now that I’m older, I feel like it’s finally time to move out..
But I’m not sure how to tell my parents? how do I approach this topic? how can I make them understand that moving out to live on my own does not mean that they are bad parents, or that I hate them or that I want to break the family apart.. how can I convince them that this is about me living my life? how can I rationalise this to them?
I come from a relatively liberal Jordanian household, my parents are both agnostics, but they are both very traditional when it comes to family, they care about honour, they care about how our family appears to society, they believe that a woman should be independent, that she should work, that she should be able to wear what she wants, that she is equal to a man BUT she should also be home by 110!
I grew up with a lot of paradoxes and so it’s hard for me to figure out how to approach this?
Any advice? any women out there living independently? .